Tuesday, August 24, 2010

The Other Woman Speaks

Just a very interesting article I found about the experiences of the "other woman." There are more interesting parts in the article itself, but some of the more understanding/sympathetic ones are these:


Why do you think you got involved? What was the draw?

I was lonely. I was unhappy. I was at a point in my life when I'd gotten really good at hiding most of my insecurities but they were still there underneath and honestly I think that played a big part.

How so?

When you are constantly looking for the approval of other people, you're susceptible to their suggestions and falling into bad behavior because you -- I don't know -- want them to keep wanting you. I'm not implying I'm a victim in all of this. You just want the attention, even if it's bad, because it makes you feel validated. It's almost addictive.

So you were addicted to this situation?

In a sense, I would say yes. I didn't want it to end even though I knew it would never be anything real and knew I was hurting people. I didn't want his attention to go away, because there were times when it felt like waiting for him to get in contact with me was the only thing that kept me going. So yeah, addiction might not be too far off.


The article's interesting beginning:

"How did the affair begin and who was the instigator?"

and end:

"Why did the affair eventually stop and who ended it?"

can be found, and read, at:


Thursday, August 19, 2010

O wad some Power the giftie gie us
To see oursels as ithers see us!
It wad frae monie a blunder free us,
An’ foolish notion...

Robert Burns, “To a Louse

Interesting, for example, that it so easy to see the errors in everyone else, yet somehow everything we happen to believe is the right belief—and everything we happen to do is the right thing to do. (Precisely Burns’s point, as you will see if you read the whole poem.)

Amazing that out of billions of people, each believing and acting his or her own individual (and different) way, there should be so many of them who happened to get it 100% right!